It is Monday morning as I write this and I’m playing catch up from being out of the office for a long weekend for the Rock N Roll half marathon in Washington DC. Not only does competing in these events keep me on track with my fitness goals but I combine events with visiting my family. My brother and sister n law did this marathon with me so it was doubly fun. Below is a picture of my finisher medal.
When I travel I make sure my Kindle is fully charged because it is amazing how much reading I get done while I am waiting in the airport for the plane and while flying. On this trip, I was reading an amazing book about how our words can not only affect the people we speak them to but also ourselves. How many times have you said something that you wish you could have taken back the moment the words were out of your mouth? Quite a few times right? Now the next question – how many times have you thought something negative in your mind? Just as many times right?
Are you one of the lucky ones that can hear negative words from someone and not let it affect you? This was one of the toughest things I myself had to work on. If negative words from another does effect you, put this on the top of your list to work on. Overcoming negative thinking is one of the best things we can do in any of our journeys but especially when it comes to our fitness and weight loss journeys.
How can we change our thinking? It is not something that will happen overnight but rather a process that we must be conscious of as we move through our days. Below are a few tips to get you moving in the right direction:
- Do not compare yourself to others. Notice how this is listed first? This is one of the hardest things to stop doing as we not only begin our journeys but as we are moving through our days. Do not look at someone in the gym and think to yourself, I can never do that or be like that. First of all you do not know where that person started nor do you know where they currently are so do not make assumptions in any way. Quite possibly they started right where you are today and are fit because they work at it each and every day both with what they are eating along with exercise. Pull your inner strength and push through and when you do find yourself comparing yourself to another, change your thoughts to “I am looking forward to when I can ……..” When I can run 3 miles on the treadmill. When I can bench press 200 pounds. When I can complete an aerobic class. Whatever you are working toward, be positive that it will shortly happen for you and it will because yes you CAN!
- Change the words YOU use every day. Instead of saying “I can’t do that.” Say “I am going to do the best that I can.” That may mean that you are going to pack your healthy lunch today instead of running to a fast food restaurant. Or maybe that means you are going to drink one bottle of water instead of your usual soda at dinner. Or how about trying that fitness class and doing as much as YOU can at that time. You know what? The more positive YOUR words are the more strength you will find you have to push through when you need to push.
- Remove yourself from people who speak negatively. If you haven’t had your Ah Hah moment yet, this one should do it for you. If you find that your close circle of friends are negative speakers, chances are that negative speaking is effecting YOUR thoughts and actions. I’m not saying to stop talking to friends and family. What I am saying is that you need to be strong enough to either not let their words affect you and if you are not strong enough, then to walk away from them. When you are able to speak calmly about it, tell them how their negative words affect you and explain that you can not allow that negative thinking into your day. You have that right so use it. Many times you will find that they might not realize how negative their speaking actually is and they will make a choice to change their words and walk down the positive thinking path with you.
This article is a bit longer than I usually write for you but it a very important topic that we must each think about not only on our fitness journey but as we move through every day. If you would like to know the book I’m reading, message me on Facebook and I will be very happy to give you the information. In the meantime, today, focus on you and your thoughts.
To your health,
Denise Sanger is a high energy business owner with over 30 years experience in the marketing area. She has transitioned her love of fitness and marketing into helping others succeed in their own journey to health and businesses. She founded How To Stay Fit Over 50 to provide hope and support to others by motivating them to take the first step in their fitness journey no matter what age. Email her at firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com